When I wrote Mother Behold Thy Son: African Woman's Journey to Dismantle Patriarchy and Live a Life of Equality, Love and Freedom, I hoped that as humanity, we not only acknowledge the inequality women and girls experience, but also recognize the damage too many boys and men experience trying to live up to the impossible standards of traditional masculinity. I created tips for my son to jettison toxic masculinity and these are based on my feminine and mothering experiences